Follow the fire and not the spark

Someone told me to focus on the fire, not the spark, and I have been thinking about it a lot but today, the veil of understanding has lifted, and now I get the meaning behind those words.

After the unexpected entrance and exit of my first love into my life. I found myself living for the expectations and moments that existed solely in my imagination, not necessarily shared by the other person. The reality of our connection didn’t always align with the romantic ideals I had envisioned. People entered my life, and I often misunderstood their intentions. Despite my desire to stay committed, overthinking became a barrier. I continued to meet new people and forge connections. But recently, someone appeared in my life who taught me the value of staying. However, a lingering question persists in my mind: is it truly worthwhile to stay?

Life isn’t about finding someone better; it’s a continuous journey of meeting and attracting new people. The real question is, who do you want to stay with? Who instantly comes to mind when you want to share the events of your day? Who is your comfort zone? Equally important is whether you hold the same place in that person’s heart. It’s not just about finding someone; it’s about finding that special someone with whom the connection feels right for both.

In my quest for a meaningful connection, I had hoped to linger and await a reciprocal sentiment, yet the difficulty of catching the reciprocity never materialized. This is not to blame anyone, for it could be that the individual in question is already entwined with someone else, or perhaps I simply do not fit the mould they seek. There exists no formula to find a mutual connection; the alignment of emotions is an unpredictable thing. I firmly believe that the person destined for me will emerge, irrespective of how and when. Thus, I encourage the continual cultivation of self, for the key to genuine happiness and fulfilment lies within. As I am trying to understand the complex network of life, I am choosing to follow the blaze of passion instead of mere sparks, dedicating myself to the ongoing journey of self-discovery until the flames of destiny guide my path. So it is about going after what truly matters and lasts, rather than getting distracted by short-lived excitement. It is like realizing that a steady flame is more important than a quick spark.